Wednesday, June 9

A New Family by Friday:)

I was sadden to hear that Al and Tipper Gore announced this week that they were separating after 40 years of marriage. That is a long history to walk away from.

Wouldn't you like to think that if a marriage got past a certain number of years you would finally have mastered the art of making a marriage work? Like 10 years of marriage and you are home free?!

Marriage, like everything else will follow the Law of Disintegration if it isn't nurtured and given the proper attention.

Betsy is celebrating her 15th anniversary this week! Last week, she shared the book by Dr Kevin Leman, Have a New Kid by Friday. I'd like to suggest another book of his, Have a New Husband by Friday. This author writes with alot of humor and makes it an easy read but still has great insight into relationships.

The book is chocked full of good information so I am going to share the 'Top Ten Countdown to Having a New Husband by Friday here. There is so much more to glean from this book, you still will want to check out this book if you are looking for a way to bring back life into your marriage.

10. Respect what he says
9. Tell him how important he is in your life
8. Tell him how much you need him in your life
7. Pursue him
6. Don't correct him or make fun of him, especially in front of others
5. Don't talk down to him. He's your husband, not your child
4. Touch him physically. One caress can last a long time and will really get his attention
3. Say nice things about him and to him
2. Eliminate the words, why, never, and always from your vocabulary
1. Think about what you're going to say and divide it by ten

My husband and I will be celebrating our 39th anniversary next month. I know there was never a point when we could say we could finally put our marriage on auto-pilot and know we wouldn't crash and burn. We have had to work each and every year to maintain our relationship. It is in the working of it that we have grown individually and as a couple.

One of the basic premises of Homemakers with Hope is that marriage is hard...and a good marriage is even harder. As the older woman in this group, I can assure you that if you work on your marriage, you will not be disappointed. It will be worth it.

1 comment:

cybil said...

very wise rules!
from the beginning, we didn't speak with others about each other.
often I heard friends complaining about their husbands and I think that's not good at all...
and we LOVE to celebrate ... our anniversaries, birthdays etc....
ths for sharing your insights,