80/20 Rule...Homemaker's Homework!

I read once that a woman will marry a man when she is happy with about 80% of what he is all about. The other 20% she just disregards...until after the wedding. It is after the wedding that she brings out the disgusting 20% and starts to pick away at her husband's shortcomings. The article went on to say that little if any of that 20% will ever change.

OK, ladies, I'm am sharing this info with you in hopes that you drop your EXPECTATION of changing your man. This week we have talked about expectations. Often we are disappointed by others and have dashed expectations or unmet expectations, but what about the expectations we put on others?

Whether you are married or not, use this weekend to focus on what expectations you have of the people in your life.

If you are married, make a list of the 80/20% that you see in your man. Tally up all the good stuff and hang that on the frig up until Valentine's Day. Let him know that list is about him! That you love him and these are just some of the reasons why!

Dwell on the 80% and drop your tendency to change the 20%.

If you are not married, do this exercise with the name of a close friend. It will be good preparation for you when you are married. Dwell on the good stuff. That is what makes for a healthy relationship.

Besides, we all have 20% of our own baggage to work on!